To my little Iyla Cherry….
I’m sorry that I don’t deal with stress very well and let it make me snappy and irritable.
I’m sorry that sometimes I swear.
I’m sorry I am so tired by your bedtime that I don’t enjoy reading you stories as much as I should.
What I am trying to say is that I’m sorry for not being perfect. I know saying that is silly because it’s not actually possible to be perfect but from the moment you were born I so desperately wanted to be.
I know that everything I do is shaping what kind of person you will grow up to be and what kind of relationship we will have when you’re older. Things didn’t turn out very well with me and my mum. I have learnt from her mistakes and I know the changes that I want to make with you.
I will never be perfect but I will ALWAYS put you first. Every decision I make will always be made with you in mind. I will always do what I think is best for you. I will always protect you and love you more than anything else in the whole world. I will never stop trying to make myself a better person. I will always be there for you and listen to what you have to say. I will always appreciate just how lucky I am to have you in my life.
Seeing you turn into such a lovely little girl is a privilege that I feel grateful for every day and it makes me so proud when I see you do things that you have learnt from me. Yesterday you were playing with your dolls and you lined them all up on the floor, covered them with your muslins, read them a story, told them you loved them, then laid next to them and pretended to sleep.
You are so caring and are always showering everything with kisses and cuddles because we have always showered you with so many and that is how you have learnt to be.
You might also have developed a lack of patience from Daddy and a tendency to say the word ‘shit’ from Mummy but hey, we can’t all be perfect and as long as there is love and cuddles, I think we will be just fine.
I love you more than you will ever know, Mummy xxxxxx
You’re doing your best and that’s all any of us can do. It’s great that you have that awareness of what went wrong between you and your own mother. It’s so easy to just replicate what came before. I find myself sometimes doing that in my marriage. I bet, if you’re honest, it’s a bit funny when she swears!
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It is a little bit funny
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You are a fantastic mummy. You are completely allowed to feel stressed and tired, it is hard work and harder when a loved one is poorly. The sheer amount of smiley pics of Lyla show that she is such a well looked after little girl and she thrives so much around you. You said in your post you will always put her first. That’s exactly what makes you the perfect mummy xx
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Ahhh thank you
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Jessica Amey recently posted..Dear Iyla, I’m Sorry
lovely post, being perfect is over rated – happy with cuddles and laughter is the most important xx
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Being perfect is definitely over rated xx
Jessica Amey recently posted..Dear Iyla, I’m Sorry
This made me cry Jess. You may not be a ‘perfect’ Mum but you are THE perfect Mum for Iyla and thats what you need to remember. She doesn’t care if you occasionally swear or get a bit snappy- as long as you are there to give her a cuddle and make her laugh, thats all that matters.
None of us are perfect- I have already lost my rag about five times with Mads today as she is currently on hunger strike. But Iyla will see you perfectly in her eyes.
Plus I remember my little sister being two and getting into a paddling pool and dropping her can of coke in it and saying ‘oh for f*cks sake.’ My Mum and I were so shocked- that we started laughing. And she has turned out to be one of the politest, most caring and lovely people I know!
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Ahhh thank you. I guess I get caught up in comparing myself to other mums forgetting that Iyla won’t be doing that because I am the only mum she knows
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Jessica Amey recently posted..Dear Iyla, I’m Sorry
This is such a lovely post. You’re so right, we can’t be perfect, no matter how hard we try. Thanks for this.
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Jessica Amey recently posted..Dear Iyla, I’m Sorry
All any of us can do is our best, and in doing that we are perfect in our own way hun. You are the perfect mummy for Iyla even if you don’t always feel like a perfect person, and she could never want for another one. Just remember you’ve got lots on your plate at the moment and cut yourself a little slack. She is healthy and happy and knows she is loved, that really is all that matters. X
Thank you, I love what you said about being the perfect mummy for Iyla even if I’m not a perfect person. I always feel like I should be different when she hopefully loves me just the way I am xx
Jessica Amey recently posted..Dear Iyla, I’m Sorry
What a lovely letter, I think trying our best is all any of us can do and sounds like you are doing great to be raising such a happy little girl
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Ah Jess, this is such a beautifully written post and bought a tear to my eye. Nobody’s perfect and although you feel like you’re not the perfect mummy, to Iyla you mean the world and she loves you just the way you are. She doesn’t worry about your imperfections, she’s a happy healthy little girl and at the end of the day that’s all that really matters. xxx
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Aw, great post and I love the photo, it’s adorable. As you said, nobody is perfect, but by example you’ll teach your daughter to always try her best and to put others first and that’s far better than teaching her to strive for perfection. Go easy on yourself, it’s tough this parenting business
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This is so sweet. This is exactly how I feel about my girls. I know I’m not perfect, and I know I will never be perfect, but I so desperately want to be. But they have learned love from you, and that matters more than everything else.
Keep up the great work Mama.
That’s such a sweet little scene, of her playing with her dolls and putting them to bed. Shows what a lovely little girl you’ve got – you’re doing a FANTASTIC job. “Perfect” doesn’t exist! x
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Gorgeous post! Brought a tear to my eye! x
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Oh hun. Some of it speaks to me too. Nobody is perfect. All we can do is to be the best we can for our children and love them unconditional.
Love the picture with your daughter! So sweet!
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arrr what a lovely letter. I feel like I should say sorry alot to my two for not being a perfect mummy but we all do our best I think x
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